Why Nonku Williams' relationship revelations deserve a therapist, not the spotlight of 'Untied'

When it comes to having a finger on the pulse of what South African viewers want to see, Showmax is leading the way. 

No, this isn’t a plug for the streaming platform but about its compelling content rather. 

It recently introduced “Untied”, a talk show helmed by Relebogile Mabotja, who sits down with high-profile women unpacking their messy divorces. Yes, it is giving “Unfollowed” vibes.

But who doesn’t enjoy a good tea spilling session, especially when it's with the likes of Beverly Steyn, actresses Dawn Thandeka King, Mona Monyane and Palesa Madisakwane, media personality Zandi Nhlapo and model-turned-activist Sonia Booth. 

Of course, thanks to a last-minute court interdict, there is still a question mark over whether the interview with businesswoman Norma Gigaba will air. 

That said, “The Real Housewives of Durban” star Nonku Williams was the first to unpack her tumultuous love life with Mabotja.

While I understand that being in the spotlight means you are held to a higher standard by society, I don’t believe everyone's life should be an open book. 

But Williams decided to unpack her struggles with finding love, and fans were curious, especially about RD, whom she introduced on the reality show. 

Her need for acceptance and being loved appears to stem from a troubled childhood where she witnessed her mother being abused by her father. 

The businesswoman and single mother of three reflected on her desperate need to get married at 21. She didn’t have a ridiculous list either: a man with two legs would do. She said it, not me. 

Madly in love, she moved in with her first boyfriend. But her intense jealousy soon led to violent outbursts, quickly eroding their initial bliss.

When the relationship tanked, she moved on with gospel singer Sfiso Ncwane, who is late. However, while she was six months pregnant with their daughter Nothile, he walked out on her and got married.

Williams's unwavering desire for marriage led her into a physically abusive relationship with her son's father.

Not much was unpacked when it came to RD, other than that they were introduced by someone she trusted. I think it was the only time in the interview that she realised that the less said, the better. 

Listening to the repeated heartbreak was difficult, and a pattern in her relationships is evident. Rather than discussing this on a talk show, though, therapy would have been more beneficial to avoid repeating the same mistakes.

And that’s just my two cents on the matter!