Revenge porn: a form of abuse that demands tougher action

RECENT headlines have once again brought to light the devastating impact of “revenge porn” in South Africa.

In a recent case, a 38-year-old woman attempted suicide after her ex-boyfriend sent pornographic videos and images of her to her family, including her son, mother, and work colleagues.

According to reports, the incident was triggered after she had allegedly updated her WhatsApp status with a photograph of her new partner. In a fit of rage, her ex allegedly went to her residence, where police had to intervene. When she blocked his attempts to contact her, he allegedly retaliated by sharing intimate videos of her performing sexual acts with him - without her consent.

The shocking case has sparked renewed calls for stronger laws and enforcement against non-consensual sharing of intimate images, widely known as revenge porn.

What is revenge porn?

Revenge porn refers to the sharing or threatening to share intimate photos or videos of someone without their consent, often as a form of punishment, humiliation, or control after a breakup.

This act is not only a violation of privacy but also a serious crime under South African law. The Films and Publications Amendment Act (2019) and the Cybercrimes Act (2020) make it an offence to distribute or even threaten to distribute sexual images of someone without consent. Those found guilty can face up to four years in prison, a fine up to R300 000, or both.

The emotional toll

Victims of revenge porn often suffer deep emotional and psychological harm, including anxiety, depression, fear, humiliation, and suicidal thoughts. Many lose jobs, relationships, and social standing due to public shaming. The digital nature of these crimes means that once the images are shared online, they can never be fully erased.

“This is not just about broken relationships but it’s a form of digital gender-based violence,” said a counsellor from RSA Health.

“It’s about power, control, and shaming. The harm lasts long after the relationship ends.”

As we can see from this case, the psychological and damaging effects of revenge porn. The victim can feel helpless and because of images shared, feel violated. This was such that it led to a suicidal attempt. Suicide is not the answer. There is help and seeking help is important.

How to prevent and protect yourself

While the blame must always rest on the perpetrator, individuals can take steps to protect themselves.

- Avoid sharing intimate images or videos - even with trusted partners. Once shared, control over that content is lost.

- Secure your devices with strong passwords and two-factor authentication.

- Be cautious with cloud backups and messaging apps. Disable automatic uploads of media to online platforms.

- Regularly check privacy settings on apps like WhatsApp, Facebook, and Instagram to control who can see your content.

- Educate young people about digital consent, trust, and the permanence of online sharing.

- Don't be coerced to have yourself videoed, think that this could be used later as revenge porn.

If you are a victim what can you do

If you have been a victim of revenge porn in South Africa, you have legal rights and options.

- Do not engage with or confront the perpetrator.

- Document everything: take screenshots, URLs, and timestamps of the posts or messages.

- Report it to the police under the Cybercrimes Act or Films and Publications Amendment Act.

- Ask for a protection order under the Protection from Harassment Act if the perpetrator continues to contact or intimidate you.

- Contact the online platform (for example, WhatsApp, Facebook, X) to request immediate removal of the content.

- Seek mental health support. The trauma can be severe. Professional counseling is crucial.

A call for action

Experts and advocates are urging the government, law enforcement, and tech platforms to do more to protect victims. Although laws exist, many victims face stigma, slow investigations, and lack of enforcement.

“Revenge porn is a form of psychological and sexual abuse,” says attorney Nisha Naidoo, a specialist in digital law.

“It destroys lives and reputations. We need urgent awareness campaigns and faster takedown systems for victims.”

The way forward

As technology becomes more embedded in our relationships, the line between privacy and exposure grows thinner. What was once a moment of trust can easily become a tool of humiliation. The message is clear: consent matters - always. The law is evolving, but society must evolve faster. Victims deserve protection, compassion, and justice. Sharing someone’s private moments is not revenge, it’s abuse. 

Where to get help

- South African Police Service (SAPS): Report to your nearest station.

- SADAG (South African Depression and Anxiety Group): 0800 567 567 / WhatsApp 087 163 2030

- GBV Command Centre: 0800 428 428 or dial 1207867# for free from any phone.

- Women For Change: www.womenforchange.co.za

Dr Seshni Moodliar Rensburg is a doctor, author and coach/mentor. She is passionate about mental well-being and holistic approaches to well-being. Find her on Dr Seshni Moodliar on Facebook and DrSeshniMoodliar on Instagram.

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