Are you trapped in a toxic relationship?

DO YOU find yourself constantly complaining about how your partner treats you - how they speak to you, what they expect from you, or how often they undermine, insult, or belittle you? Or perhaps you’ve learned to endure it all in silence? Either way, it’s time to take your power back.

Some relationships are obviously toxic - marked by visible bruises, fear, and silence. Others are more subtle but just as damaging. You might feel constantly watched, forced to account for your whereabouts, or falsely accused of infidelity. You may have lost confidence in yourself, stopped seeing friends or family, or given up activities that once brought you joy.

What surprises me most is how many intelligent, successful women are still being controlled, criticised, and diminished by their partners. It’s time to shine a light on these toxic dynamics -  because the feminine energy on our planet is rising.

For centuries, we’ve lived in a patriarchal system that conditioned men to believe they are the stronger sex and that women exist to serve them: to cook, clean, raise children, and manage their lives. But this outdated belief system is collapsing. It’s not only women who must rise - men have a vital role to play in creating a new paradigm of respect and equality. We need strong men who embody true leadership and protection to speak out when they see abuse - whether it’s physical, emotional, or psychological.

As a society, we can no longer turn a blind eye or dismiss the situation with: “If it’s that bad, why doesn’t she just leave?”

Those trapped in abusive relationships often have their power systematically stripped away. They live in fear, manipulated into believing the abuse is somehow their fault. Abusers frequently say things like, “Look what you made me do” or “I wouldn’t act this way if it weren’t for you.”

Some even apologise afterward, further confusing their victims. Narcissistic abusers are masters of gaslighting - making their partners doubt their own worth, memory, or sanity. It’s time for radical change. It begins with the messages we give our children. Parents must stop telling daughters that when a boy teases or hurts them, it means he likes them. And we must teach our sons that honouring and respecting women is the mark of true strength - of a man aligned with his divine masculine energy.

Too many men are still operating from their wounded or toxic masculine. Healing is essential. Every man must take responsibility for his own emotional wounds instead of inflicting pain on others, especially those he claims to love. A man who hits a woman is not a man. That truth needs to be spoken loudly and shared widely. We must also challenge harmful double standards.

When a man has multiple affairs, he’s often celebrated by his peers. When a woman does the same, she’s shamed and called names. This hypocrisy must end. Real strength lies in integrity, not in conquest. As the divine feminine continues to rise, abuse of the feminine - in any form - will no longer be tolerated. The question is: are we part of the problem, or part of the solution? Will we stay silent, or will we take a stand - for love, respect, and dignity for all human beings?

Kas Naidoo is a life and relationship coach with over 25 years’ experience. For a free discovery session, email [email protected]

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