QUESTION: I am 45 and have breastfed three children, which means I have shrunk from a 36DD to a B cup. It doesn’t bother me, but my husband wants me to have breast enhancement surgery. I feel it’s too risky, but I want to remain sexy in my husband’s eyes. Help!
ANSWER: How is it that greying, wrinkled males are known as silver foxes, while middle-aged females are under pressure to dye their hair, spend a fortune on anti-ageing cream and plump up their breasts?
Don’t get me wrong, I believe partners should make an effort to look attractive for one another.
Great romantic partnerships involve mutual kindness and understanding. It can be liberating to put your desires second for a change. But there’s a limit to that generosity.
If you bought a couple of Wonderbras, you’d be paying ample heed to your husband’s breast fixation.
However, in asking you to undergo surgery, your husband is trying to get you to do something he wouldn’t dream of doing himself.
Would your husband be so keen if he knew the range of side-effects?
I suggest you flick through Dr Susan Kolb’s book, The Naked Truth About Breast Implants, which should make you both think twice.
If you were the one who wanted surgery, I’d ask you to write lists of pros and cons. If the upsides of the operation outweighed the negatives, I’d tell you to go for it.
But surgery should always be a last resort. What would bigger breasts give you except a less critical husband? You can’t even be sure of that - when a man starts nit-picking at his partner’s appearance, he often carries on finding fault.
If I were you, I’d give implants a wide berth. Instead, give your chest a natural boost by taking up swimming, which tones and firms the chest muscles. - Daily Mail